"When I was in college, a teacher once said that all women live by a ‘rape schedule.’ I was baffled by the term, but as she went on to explain, I got really freaked out. Because I realized that I knew exactly what she was talking about. And you do too. Because of their constant fear of rape (conscious or not), women do things throughout the day to protect themselves. Whether it’s carrying our keys in our hands as we walk home, locking our car doors as soon as we get in, or not walking down certain streets, we take precautions. While taking precautions is certainly not a bad idea, the fact that certain things women do are so ingrained into our daily routines is truly disturbing. It’s essentially like living in a prison - all the time. We can’t assume that we’re safe anywhere: not on the streets, not in our homes. And we’re so used to feeling unsafe that we don’t even see that there’s something seriously fucked upt about it."
Jessica Valenti (via aquarie)
#TW: RAPE #I WAS SHOPPING WITH MY BROTHER LAST WEEK #IT WAS DARK OUT #I WAS ON AUTOMATIC PILOT #AND I DID MY NORMAL #CHECK THE BACKSEAT AS I WALK TO THE DOOR #THEN IMMEDIATELY LOCK THE DOOR #AND HE WAS LIKE #DUDE WHAT’S WITH THAT? #I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT #BUT THEN I DID #HE NEVER HAS TO DO ANY OF THAT #HE DOESN’T HAVE MACE LIKE I CARRY IN MY HAND#WHEN I’M AFRAID OF THE DARK #HE DOESN’T HAVE KEYS IN BETWEEN HIS FINGERS#READY TO JAB #AND WHEN I EXPLAINED TO HIM #WHY I LOOKED IN THE BACKSEAT#WHY I LOCKED THE DOORS SO FAST #HE JUST SAID #THAT’S WEIRD #NO BROTHER#THAT’S RAPE CULTURE(tags by anywhoozles)
The other day i went to the gas station to pick up a lottery ticket and i was the only person parked there when i went in but when i came out there was a car parked next to my vehicle, running, with two dudes sitting in it. i hurried into my vehicle and instantly locked the doors, and quickly pulled out and headed off. i didn’t even plug my mp3 player in. i just left. it wasn’t until i pulled out of the parking lot when i realized what i just did.